We have dogs so it didn't make sense to have him close to the floor in chairs and swings and whatnot. My son spent so much time in this during the first month, and we still use it pretty frequently now that he's 7 weeks. do we have something to put him in?" and I immediately remembered that we had it. The second we got home from the hospital, we said "so uhh. I debated between it and the Doc a Tot (I also did not understand the hype) and I'm so glad I made the decision to register for the Boppy. Personally I'd advocate for significantly better paid parental leave, as well as occasional night-nurse services being a standard part of post-birth healthcare for the first few months (and of course universal healthcare). People need to work, they can't afford not to! People need to sleep, lest they quite literally lose it.Īs a society we're going to need to figure some shit out to find the best balance between baby sleep and parental sleep. The problem is that its not reasonable for them to be followed 100% of the time for most people. I fully appreciate how well they work, when able to be followed 100% of the time. There's just not enough hands and not enough hours in the day for both parents to actually get an adequate amount of sleep if the safe sleep recommendations aren't their baby's preferred sleeping position! The non-working parent is taking care of a newborn who may or may not take more than teeny tiny cat naps all day long, so they need to be awake enough to ya know, keep their newborn alive. The working parent is at work all day where they need to be at work and coherent enough to ya know, work. Our society honestly just isn't designed for these optimal sleep recommendations - when new parents are expected to work and otherwise function, they can't do it on no sleep! For a HUGE number of new parents in the US, BOTH parents are back to work after 6 weeks, and the non-birth giving parent is often back to work within days. Its literally designed to ensure your baby sleeps less well! To add to this, the AAP recommended way (on flat surface, no blankets, on back, etc.) very much results in less deep sleep for newborns, because less deep sleep is thought to help prevent SIDs - if they aren't sleeping so deeply, they are less likely to not wake up when they aren't breathing well enough. > Right, so the thing they don’t tell you is that there are babies that will. If baby will have it, you can’t go wrong with the safe sleep ABC’s (alone, back, crib). But, for the record, I never recommend bedsharing as a first step or for those who are uncomfortable with the idea. The good thing is those guidelines are evidence based and there are studies that suggest that a breastfeeding mother safely bedsharing with an infant can help slightly lower SIDS risk. It was not what I had intended to do, but sometimes life is not ideal. We started bedsharing using the Notre Dame Safe Cosleeping guidelines and that was safer for my son than me continuing to nod off during night feeds. That scared me so bad because it’s such a risk to the baby (slipping into a bad position and suffocating). I was sitting upright and trying to keep myself uncomfortable enough to keep me awake, but when you’re sleep deprived there’s sometimes no preventing it. Then I had my first and on more than one occasion I fell asleep while night feeding my son. I was a child health/safety specialist and taught safe sleep. Peace, just needed to get that off my chest. Why do I hate it so much? Why am I dwelling on this?” The answer, my friends, is pregnancy hormones and too much time watching YouTube videos about baby registries. “Am I being overly paranoid? Why do I care this much about someone else’s SIDS cushion? I don’t need this thing. I had to look at myself for a long time in the mirror over this one. I feel like it literally ignores every sleep guideline ever given so there is no way it’s legal to market it as an infant bed. It’s a soft place to put the baby down for a few minutes? Why does that need to cost more than a bassinet? It doesn’t look safe to sleep in but I have friends that are cosleeping with this crazy thing in bed with them. This glorified pillow is haunting me on every registry wish list and I don’t understand what it’s even for. What am I missing here? I feel like I’m living in a parallel universe where I’m the only one not in on something. All of the YouTube recommended baby items promote this thing as their “number one must have essential.” I know several people who have one already. I really don’t understand the hype behind the “Doc A Tot” and I feel like I’m the only one.Īll of my friends that are currently pregnant are excitedly registering for this.
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